Tuesday, 28 April 2015

5 Easy Ways to Cultivate Balance in 2015

by Fran Bishop

As we're thrust deeper into the holiday season with thoughts focused on the New Year, a great temptation is about to rear its ugly head.

No, it's not the temptation of yet another batch of holiday cookies. It's the impossible-to-resist pull to set unrealistic, Herculean goals for 2015.

And yet while the setting of New Year's resolutions isn't a problem in itself, making unrealistic promises to one self or others disrupts balance and ends up making you feel more frazzled than ever.
Here are 5 balanced, realistic ways to achieve your goals in 2015:

1. Create a Goal Board/Calendar
You want 2015 to be a great year. You have 20, maybe even 100 different things you'd like to achieve. But a goal without a realistic plan is merely wishful thinking.

Create a goal board and/or calendar and choose ONE goal per month for the first quarter of 2015. Choosing fewer goals will not only help you prioritize; it will help you create a manageable plan for actually achieving those goals as well.

2. Ask the Tough Questions
What do you really, truly want in 2015? On the surface, your goals might include launching a new business, getting healthy, spending more time with family, and other worthwhile pursuits.
But what is at the core, or heart, of those goals? What is your "why" behind seeking a new business, a healthier body, or better state of mind?

Determining what you truly want underneath the surface will help you choose goals that reflect your deepest aspirations. It will also help you shift your lifestyle and bring every aspect of your life into balance.

3. Do Your Research
You're not alone when it comes to achieving goals and cultivating balance in 2015. Examine some different resources, including blogs, books, mastermind groups, and coaches, and see which of these resources can help you achieve your goals.

The resources you choose should not only help you reach your goals, but should help you focus on your overall performance and create more equilibrium in your life.

4. Evaluate Pro's and Con's
Be honest - what aspects of your life are just not working for you? Which facets do you love and want more of in 2015?

Sometimes it can be difficult to know from where your lack of balance originates. Take a good, hard look at what's working and why those aspects of your life make you happy.

Take another hard look at what's causing you stress and draining your energy. Keep in mind that goals can also include ending toxic relationships and spending less time and energy on certain projects and/or people.

5. Treat Yourself
It may sound counterintuitive, but one of the most effective ways of reaching your goals is by doing something totally unrelated to your goals.

Take a vacation, sign up for an art class, attend a conference, or treat yourself to something seemingly unrelated to your personal and professional life. You'll not only learn about yourself and the world; you'll discover surprising answers and new perspectives that will, in turn, help you achieve your goals that much faster.

Bonus: Tighten Your Focus in 2015
A wonderful goal-setting treat for 2015 is called Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting. This book, by author Lynn Grabhorn, will help you get laser-focused about what you want to achieve and how you're going to get there in 2015.

In Chapter Three, Grabhorn writes, "Focus on what you don't want, and watch it get bigger. If you're giving some passionate attention to something you truly do not want, it will eventually grow up to smack you." Focus instead on what you DO want, and be sure that focus is directed toward one goal at a time.

If you had to narrow it down, what is your ONE goal for 2015?

About the Author

Fran Dean Bishop is an award winning business coach and CEO with 20 years in the health management industry. She founded Aerobodies Fitness Company, (now AFC Management Services), in 1994 as a corporate service provider of health promotion, fitness management and behavior change programs for the private sector and federal agencies. Fran also designed and launched two successful health technology innovations, MyEquilibriumCoach and MECkids.com. To request Fran for a speaking engagement or workshop, contact her at franb@afmsco.com - 703-402-8477.

Article Source: http://goarticles.com/article/5-Easy-Ways-to-Cultivate-Balance-in-2015/9927175/
 

Top 4 Reasons For Choosing the Single Life

by David Cunic

There is a hilarious movement in this country trying to tell you that you NEED to be in a relationship with someone. That somehow that is more normal than not being in a relationship. There is an unspoken emphasis on starting a family and finding a soul mate that has been in place since the fifties. What is odd is every other ideal since then has evolved, yet we still truly believe and fall victim to that. The idea that we cannot love ourselves or define ourselves unless we have someone next to us, doing it for us. That we cannot face tragedies or troubles in life and make it through them solely on the strength of ourselves. But why is it an ideal that existed in a long dead time is still forced on us? Why are people who choose to be single still looked at as strange? I can tell you being one of them that a GREAT many of my friends on the other side of the fence tell me how unhappy they are.

I say we live in a new age. An age where we should be allowed to be somewhat selfish, and being single makes that a hugely enjoyable act. Some may be single unwillingly, but this is me raising a glass to the people who are single by choice, and know just how much fun that can be.

1. Times Have Changed
I am not here to insult love or relationships. Love is pretty magical when it works, and for those who want that and find that and experience that daily, I tip my hat to you. May it last forever (though we all know how rarely that actually occurs). But why is it that starting a family and being in love seems normal, and being by one's self seems strange? It is completely true, the old adage that you cannot love someone until you love yourself, so let me ask: How do you learn to love yourself if you never spend any time alone with you? I want you to think that over for a moment. Truth is, you don't.

2. Not Answering To Anyone
Love, if you do it right, is about factoring someone in to every single decision you make. This also means, when the love is true, putting yourself last. As wonderful and altruistic and selfless as that is, are the people who do that always happy? When did we learn that doing things for OURSELVES was bad? When were we taught to be punished for rewarding ourselves our doing something primal and enjoyable? We must have been programmed to feel that way, because no one knows how to be happy anymore, and the lack of doing anything to work towards that is not going to change that.

3. The Art Of Casual Sex
Despite WHATEVER you have been taught to the opposite, two consenting adults can have casual sex. The act of sex without love or a relationship exists, and guess what? Even though people equate being single with celibacy, such is not the case. If you are an adult and an honest, open one, you will find other souls like you who may have no interest in the drama of a relationship, but know how beneficial sex is to one's life. This opens the door for the €but love makes sex better€ argument, which also opens the door for €love without sex leads to life without drama€, so we could probably back and forth this hours. Remember, this is not the 50's. You want to lock yourself down, that is your prerogative. But a LOT of things have changed. Shake the shackles of those ideals if it means you will be happier.

4. Is It Lonely?
Here's the thing. Being single is a lonely life if you choose it to be. Yes, you can do nothing with nobody if that is what you want, but you can also do (and this is my entire point here) whatever you want, whenever you want, with whomever you want. Pop culture may try to trick you into thinking single people are miserable, but do they ever poll he people who are willingly single? The people who say no to relationships because they choose to? The people who actually like the freedom it buys them and how it allows them more time to get to know who they REALLY are without defining themselves by someone else?

Well, let me tell you. It is pretty kick ass. I'm not going to lie. Remember, live the life you WANT. Not the life you have been conditioned to believe you are supposed to have.

 

About the Author

David M. Cunic, is a successful physical therapist and personal trainer for Pazoo, Inc., a Health & Wellness company for people & pets. To learn more visit us at http://www.pazoo.com.

Article Source: http://goarticles.com/article/Top-4-Reasons-For-Choosing-the-Single-Life/9753814/
 

Monday, 27 April 2015

3 Easy Ways to Free Up Time

There's always plenty to do in your business, and your work is never done.

 It's easy to slip into a pattern of being busy, without feeling you've actually accomplished something.
So how do you change that?

How do you stay on top of things that need to be done, and still have enough time to relax?

How do you get more done without working harder or stressing out?

And how can you make sure that you FEEL like you've done enough and made progress?

These tips help you get more focus, more freedom, and get more done in the same amount of time:

Tip #1: Spend your time on what matters most

How do you want to spend your time? What's most important to you?

And are these the things you actually spend most of your time on?

Write down everything you do from getting up to going to sleep for a week.

 This will give you some interesting insights.

When I did this myself, I was quite unpleasantly surprised by how much time I wasted. (On email, for example. And on Facebook.)

I bet you can find (and eliminate) some time wasters too when you do this exercise. That will free up some (or a lot) of time every week.

Tip #2: Do this inner work before you start working

Take some time each morning to do this exercise:

Step 1:
Close your eyes. Imagine it's later this evening, and you're about to go to sleep. You're smiling and feel great as you look back on your day. You feel good about yourself, this day, and what you've accomplished.

What actions did you take to make you feel like this? What made you feel good? How did you spend your time throughout the day?

Step 2:
Open your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths. Write down 1 to 5 actions you will take today - the actions that will make you feel as good about your day as you just imagined.

Step 3:
Start with the action you most resist taking. Once that's out of the way, the rest of your work will be so much easier.

Take 5 or 10 minutes each morning to do this exercise. The results will amaze you!

Tip #3: Create a weekly schedule

Having a template for how you spend your time each week gives you a lot more freedom & focus. This schedule can be as detailed as you like. Just create something that works for YOU.

 For example: do all your admin stuff each Friday morning. Write newsletters or blogs each Thursday morning.

You can use this schedule every week, so you can stop thinking about what you have to do (and when you will do it) all the time.

I really love working with my weekly schedule. It gives me more focus, I get more done, and it gives me peace of mind.

Do you already have a template like this? If not, take some time to create your own personal schedule. It really works!

Just remember:

Your schedule is a TOOL to help you. Change it whenever your situation or your wants and needs change.

And make sure YOU stay in charge of your life and how you spend your time.

Don't let your schedule, to-do-lists, or other people's agendas and expectations determine that for you.

 

About the Author

Brigitte van Tuijl is a Soul Purpose & Breakthrough Expert for heart-centered entrepreneurs,
author of the forthcoming book 'The Art of Divine Selfishness - transforming the world by thinking of YOU' and originator of the unique 7 step F.R.E.E.D.O.M. process to turn your purpose into a profitable business you LOVE
www.brigittevantuijl.com
Subscribe to the fr.ee weekly ezine with tips to get unstuck, get on purpose and get paid for your mission: [http://www.brigittevantuijl.com/ezine/]

Article source: http://goarticles.com/article/3-Easy-Ways-to-Free-Up-Time/9314476/
 

Tuesday, 14 April 2015

Can Other People's Vibrations Affect You?


Have you ever seen someone in a bad mood walk into a room and bring everyone in it down? The atmosphere in the entire room changes. Suddenly everyone becomes more irritable, on edge, and pessimistic. Likewise, a person in a great mood can walk in and make everyone feel better, lighter, and more optimistic. Suddenly people are joking around more, smiling and laughing. What happened? From an energetic standpoint, the person walking into the room actually changed the vibration of the people who were already there, and brought them down or up to their level. We actually have the ability to affect each other's vibrations, especially if we're not conscious of the fact that this is happening.

Each of us is emanating a vibration, which is the result of our predominant thoughts and beliefs in each given moment. So, if one person is thinking happy thoughts and feeling good, they're giving off a high, positive vibration. If another person is thinking sad thoughts and feeling bad, they're giving off a low, negative vibration.

When these two people come together, one of three things is going to happen.

Scenario 1
If the person with the higher vibration is more stable in their frequency, the other person's lower vibration will be raised to meet the higher one. What do I mean by "stable"?

Let's Say Mr. Happy is in a great mood because it's his birthday. He's decided that because it's his birthday, he's going to be in a good mood all day. He refuses to let anything bother him, and he walks around humming a little tune. Nothing can get him down. He is very stable in his high vibration.
Mr. Grumpy is in a bad mood, because he got annoyed by traffic on the way to work. But he's not obsessing about it. So when the two men meet, Mr. Grumpy's vibration is changed by Mr. Happy's. He will gradually feel better and better until eventually, if they stay in the same space long enough, and providing that Mr. Happy continues to stay stable in his vibration, Mr. Grumpy will feel just as good as Mr. Happy.

Scenario 2
If the person with the lower vibration is more stable in their frequency, the other person's higher vibration will decrease to meet the lower one.

Mr. Grumpy is in a bad mood because he hates his job. He thinks a lot about how much he hates his job. In fact, it's pretty much all he thinks about while he's at work. Mr. Grumpy is very stable in his low, negative vibration.

Mr. Happy is in a good mood because he got a great parking spot. It put a smile on his face. The parking spot isn't that important, though, and he doesn't really think much about it after he walks into his office. His high vibration isn't very stable, at all.

When the two men meet this time, Mr. Grumpy begins to complain to Mr. Happy about how crappy his job is, how the deadlines are too short, and how the food in the cafeteria is always the same. Mr. Happy's vibration is changed by Mr. Grumpy's. He will gradually feel worse and worse until eventually, if they stay in the same space long enough, and providing that Mr. Grumpy continues to stay stable in his vibration, Mr. Happy will feel just as bad as Mr. Grumpy does.

Scenario 3
Both Mr. Happy and Mr. Grumpy are stable in their respective vibrations. When this happens, the two CANNOT stay in the same space. Have you ever been in a bad mood and someone all shiny and happy came into the room? Didn't they just annoy the crap out of you? Didn't you just want to slap the smile right off their face? You couldn't stand to be around them, and as soon as you had the chance to, you got away from them. Your vibrations were literally repelling each other.

When we live non-consciously, when we don't train ourselves to hold the vibration of our choosing, two things happen:

First, we tend to be a lot more stable in our negative vibrations than our positive ones. That means, a person in a bad mood will be much more likely to bring someone in a good mood down, rather than the opposite happening.

Second, we are at the mercy of whoever is around us.

These two criteria added together will result in rapidly spreading lower vibrations. Is it more likely for you to walk into an office where everyone is generally happy, or everyone is generally grouchy?
But we can stop this cycle. All we have to do is learn to stabilize our vibrations. Not only will this mean that we are no longer affected negatively by others, but we will actually be able to influence others in a positive way.

So, how do you stabilize your vibration? You can simply decide to focus deliberately on thoughts that make you feel good. Just like when it's your birthday, you can decide that nothing's going to bring you down. Keep focusing on reasons to feel good. It's a beautiful day. The receptionist smiled at you on the way in. You got a good parking spot. Your children are healthy. Your favorite team won last night. It doesn't matter what the reason is, as long as you intentionally focus on it. You are deliberately and consciously making yourself feel good.

And when you are intentionally feeling good, you are stable in your vibration. Practice holding a strong, higher frequency. You'll notice that people in a bad mood - grouchy, pessimistic people - will either change in your presence, or will simply not be able to stand being around you. The Law of Attraction won't be able to bring you together. They'll have an impulse to go to lunch a little earlier than you, or park in a different spot so you don't see them on the way in.

What's more, if you're truly stable in your high vibration, you won't be bothered by their bad mood anymore. If you find yourself being bothered by it, you're allowing them to lower your vibration to meet theirs. Stop that. Just keep focusing on thoughts that feel good. Stay strong in your high frequency and the Law of Attraction must bring you vibrations that match it. Your world will become a much friendlier, more beautiful place.

Did you like this article? Learn more about how our vibrations affect what we manifest in our reality by reading LOA Articles about Vibrations.

Melody Fletcher writes about the Law of Attraction and spirituality. Her main goal is to help those that resonate with her information to find the empowerment, freedom and happiness that every one of us truly deserves. She invites you to visit her website DeliberateReceiving.com.
 
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Melody_Fletcher

Law of Vibration - The Key To Understanding The Law of Attraction


Of all the universal laws, the law of attraction is both the most fascinating and the most misunderstood. Fascinating, because as humans we naturally want a tool to help create the life of our dreams, and the law of attraction can certainly help us to do that. Misunderstood because, unlike a tool that we can pull out and use now and again but is otherwise inactive, the law of attraction is operating in our lives constantly and independently, whether we are consciously aware of it, or believe in it, or not.

In other words, there is no need to engage the law of attraction, it is already at work in your life and always will be. So long as you are alive and breathing, the law of attraction is at work. This is great news! You are already using the law of attraction to create everything in your life whether you realise it or not. The results that you are experiencing: your career, finances, relationships, health, home, community, and so on, are a direct result of the law of attraction and your interaction with it in the form of thoughts and feelings.

If you're not creating the kind of life you want though, chances are you are creating by default, allowing the law of attraction to bring you more and more of the same. Unfortunately, we weren't handed a life manual at birth and, for many of us, our parents were not aware of the law of attraction and so did not teach us. At Attract Like Magic we are dedicated to helping you understand this powerful universal law and how you can begin to use the law of attraction to consciously create the life of your dreams. On the Attract Like Magic site, and in upcoming newsletters and articles, we will explore everything to do with the law of attraction and provide tools that will help you to harness its power.

But in order to really understand the law of attraction, you first need to understand another of the universal laws, the law of vibration.

Law of Vibration

According to the law of vibration everything is made of energy and has a distinct frequency or vibration. With the advent of powerful enough technology, science now agrees. Quantum physicists have shown that, although matter may appear to be solid, when you look at it through a high-powered microscope so that it is broken down into its smallest components: molecules, atoms, neutrons, electrons and quanta (the smallest particles measurable), it is ultimately mostly empty space interspersed with energy.

In other words, at the quantum level, everything is comprised of energy and empty space and what makes you, your home, your car, the chair you're sitting in, seem solid is the frequency of the vibration of the energy that makes it up.

Not only does your body and all that you consider to be "you" have a distinct and unique vibration (or more correctly a mix of vibrations), but your creations, in the form of thoughts, also have distinct vibrations which affect or blend with your overall vibration.

In turn, your vibrations affect everything around you - your environment, the people and animals around you, the inanimate objects, even the seemingly 'empty' space and they, in turn, affect you. That's why, when you walk into a room where there was an earlier argument, you can sense it. We even use terms like "bad vibes", "you can feel the tension", and "you could cut the air in here with a knife" to describe it. In each case what we are referring to is the energy imprint of the earlier occupants.

Similarly, you may have gone to someone's home, office or business where, as soon as you entered, you felt the "good vibes" that filled the place. That's because, over time, a place becomes imbued with the energy imprints of the dominant vibrations of the people who live or work there. So a home, for example, can literally become filled with love or tension or anger or sadness or any other emotion, and that home will feel that way to a visitor even if none of the regular occupants are at home at the time. If you've ever entered such a place you may even have noticed how you just relaxed and felt good in response to the "good vibes" around you. Of course, the extent to which you take on the vibrations of the people and things around you is up to you - but for most people, this is not a conscious decision.

So, you are giving off vibrations every second of every day. You are also simultaneously receiving and translating the vibrations of everything and everyone around you. If we use the analogy of television, you are both a television transmitter, beaming out your own unique station, and also a television set or receiver, able to tune in to all the stations or frequencies being broadcast around you. Sometimes we refer to these incoming vibrations as intuition or "gut feelings".

So how do you know what your vibration is at any moment?

Simple - ask yourself how you are feeling.

Your emotions are a quick and handy guide to your vibration in any moment. If you feel loving, you are vibrating at the frequency of love; if you feel angry, you are vibrating at the frequency of anger; if you feel curious, you are vibrating at the frequency of curiosity, and those vibrations are received by everything and everyone around you. You are also, through the law of attraction, bringing to you more experiences that will match this vibration so when you feel angry the law of attraction will bring to you more experiences that will elicit the feeling of anger, you will attract angry people and find yourself in the middle of angry situations.

Have you ever had a day where you felt lousy, but tried to pretend that everything was OK to family, friends or co-workers? It doesn't work does it? Your friends, family or co-workers know straight away that you are not how you are pretending to be. They may ask if something is wrong, or comment that you don't seem to be your normal self. They pick up on the incongruence between what you are saying and your vibration. Because we are not used to explaining in terms of vibrations, they may attribute their knowing to something more mundane like tone of voice or body language, but even people without the full use of their senses can detect this type of incongruence.

To sum up, you are sending out vibrations every moment of every day. Those vibrations are a mix of your thoughts and feelings and they affect everything around you. At the same time you are also receiving and translating the vibrations of everything around you (which can, in turn, affect your vibration by how you react to them). Now that we understand vibration, let's look at how it interacts with the law of attraction.

Law of Attraction

The law of attraction, simply put, means energy attracts like energy. You may also have heard it expressed as "like attracts like', "that which is like unto itself is drawn" and even "thoughts become things".

The law of attraction is at work in your life every minute of every day. Your vibrations are constantly being broadcast to, and received, by the universe. This activates the law of attraction which then matches your vibrations and attracts to you similar vibrations in the form of people, things and situations in your life. In other words you are always creating your life through your thoughts and feelings. The conditions in your life, whether they are what you want or not, are always a match to your dominant vibrations.

The law of attraction, like all the universal laws, operates whether you are aware of it or not, or believe it or not. The often-used terms "what you focus on grows", "careful what you wish for (cause you just might get it)", "birds of a feather flock together" and "you can't get enough of what you don't want" are all examples of ways that we describe the law of attraction in action.

So, the question becomes - if your life is not how you would wish it to be, how do you change it? And the answer most often given by law of attraction and personal development teachers is a simple one - change your thoughts.

Simple - yes, but not easy. Here's why.

Somewhere between 94 - 98% of all thoughts are subconscious, that is, below or out of conscious awareness which means that only 2 - 6% of your thoughts are ever conscious. So, even if you managed to change all of your conscious thoughts to be positive, that still leaves an awful lot of subconscious thought, at least some of which would be negative, vibrating away in the background without you even being aware of it! If you're having trouble creating what you want in life, chances are your subconscious mind is at fault.

In our next article we will explore the subconscious mind and how it can interfere with your Law of Attraction efforts.

Yvonne Ellis has been studying personal and spiritual development for over 20 years. She teaches and coaches in these areas and is co-author of the website http://www.AttractLikeMagic.com where you'll find loads of information about the Law of Attraction and the Universal Laws including free eBooks to start off or enhance your Law of Attraction library. To subscribe to the Attract Like Magic newsletter and make sure you don't miss out on our subconscious follow-up click here To receive your FREE Attraction Acceleration Report featuring Bob Proctor and Stephen Pierce click here
 
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Yvonne_Ellis

Monday, 13 April 2015

Middle Age: How Extensive Is It and What Can You Do About It?


Middle Age: A Few Facts And Implications

"The more I learn about John McCain, the more I like his maverick spirit. For instance, his critics say he's too old. So what does he do? He keeps aging." Stephen Colbert, On the Colbert Report
Aging is all the rage these days. We have a few presidential candidates over 60 - one candidate in 2008 was a lot over 60. Nobody since Reagan running for president was as old as McCain. Our age obsession is fueled by Hollywood and by the baby boomers, now gaining eligibility for Medicare and Social Security. Perhaps the nation is fascinated, as well, by the fact that I, too, am getting up there in years.

Whatever the causes, the consequences of and fears about aging are omnipresent. Frankly, I'm sick of aging and may give it up entirely, go cold turkey and simply refuse to do it anymore. I will, too, as soon as I learn how.

Who invented aging, anyway? When did it begin? If people have always aged, then why should we insist on making such a big deal about it at this time in human history?

I read somewhere that the concept of an aging population was first described in France in the 1830s, due to concern among the leaders of that society about declining birth rates. Leave it to the French. Later, in the 20th century, gains in life expectancy in the industrialized nations led to fears of overpopulation. Nearly everybody, except the kids of course, is talking about middle age, and what drugs to take to deal with it.
What is middle age? Nobody knows -- but that does not stop people from going on about it. Ogden Nash said, "Middle age is when you've met so many people that every new person you meet reminds you of someone else." (Thoughts Thought After A Bridge Party.) Donald Robert Perry Marquis, who had too many names, remarked, "Of middle age the best that can be said is that a middle aged person has likely learned how to have a little fun in spite of his troubles." (The Song of Mehitabel.)

In any event, the growth rate of the 60+ age group (of which I was recently unceremoniously expelled) throughout the Americas is 3.5 times greater than the growth rate of the rest of the population. This is the kind of statistic that pops up all the time due to the focus on aging. In China, watch out - geezer alert: By 2025, China may have 300 million people over 60 years -- nearly the size of our population today. If everyone starts living a wellness lifestyle and participating in triathlons and such, we can expect that competition in the senior age groups to get really intense.

Most people in developing countries live in poverty, but they are less likely to die early than in the past because of environmental advances and medical interventions. Also, fertility rates have been reduced by worldwide adoption of modern contraception, despite the resistance of primitive religious hostility. These improvements hasten the demographic transition to an older population.

One concern about this trend is that the number of younger people usually drops as the number of older folks increases. A shift over time from high to low mortality and high to low fertility brings this situation into existence. Another term for an aging population is to say society is undergoing a demographic transition. Another phrase of interest in this aging business is epidemiological transition. This deals with the shift to chronic and degenerative illnesses as causes of death rather than infections and acute conditions, which are more likely to befall younger populations.
The good news for us is that the number of chronically disabled Americans aged 65 and over has not increased as would have been projected, based upon the increasing numbers of seniors. A chart of the years 1982-1986, from the British Medical Journal (Butler, RN. Population Aging and Health, 1997; 315: 1082-1084) indicates that we are not only living longer, we are also staying healthy far longer.

What are a few wellness implications of all this for you? Face it -- you can't change global or national population trends, you don't want to die young (and besides, it might be too late for that!) and you really can't choose not to age, so what is a wellness enthusiast to do?

Live well, of course, and look on the bright side of life as much and as long as possible. Recognize that older people commonly use more health care services than younger people, but try to avoid having to do that by looking after yourself everyday.

Publisher of the ARDELL WELLNESS REPORT - an electronic newsletter devoted to weekly commentaries on current issues that affect personal and social well being from a quality of life perspective. The emphasis is on REAL wellness. REAL stands for the key issues embraced and advanced in Don's philosophy, namely, Reason, Exuberance, Athleticism and Liberty. Sample copy of latest edition by request. If you like it, you can sign up - the price is right - free. awr.realwellness@gmail.com
 
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Donald_Ardell

Sunday, 12 April 2015

Middle Aged Dating Tips - Getting Started Again


Good coffee and great conversation can make for a safe and easy first-date.

Many people are now starting to try to get back in the dating game after many years of being married, either due to divorce or being widowed. Regardless of why you are back on the dating scene, trying to date at middle age can be fairly intimidating. If you have been married or with someone for a very long time, you will quickly see that the dating scene has changed a good bit since the last time you dated. How do you get started again, and find that special someone? That is the focus of this article.

The first thing to do is to really take a good look at your own wants and needs. Before you can possibly try to go out and date someone else, you need to have some type of idea of the type of person you would want to date. The best way to do that is to know those things that you are willing to compromise on, and those things that you are not. If you are a Christian, nonsmoking, animal rights lover for example, you would not want to go out hunting for an Atheist, smoking, fur lover. This seems obvious, but it is something we all must do when going into the dating market. At middle age, you do not want to waste a lot of time dating people that you know you will not have any long term interest in. Find those qualities you are looking for, and then move on to the next step.

The next step is to take those qualities you are looking for in a date, and consider where you might find such a person. If you love racing, get out to the racetrack. If you love dancing, get out to the various dancing clubs around. Generally speaking, it is easy to figure out where you might find those people that suit you if you just give it some thought.

Another middle aged dating tip is get out and try something new. Many people find someone to spend time with simply by attending a "beginners" type activity. The benefit here is that all are beginners in the classes, so you instantly have something in common to talk about. Jump into conversation with those around you, and you might be surprised that a number of them may be single. Do not be afraid to ask somebody out if they attract you and they seem to be of the same mind.

The biggest key to middle aged dating is to get out there and try. So many people do not even try as they feel they are too long out of the game. The bottom line is that every age group has a number of people that are in the same situation as you, and they are just as scared and nervous. You simply need to get out there and find them so that you can be nervous together.

When dating at middle age, it is also important to take things slow and resist the normal urge to rush. Many middle-agers feel as though "the clock is ticking" and that they must find someone quickly. This is simply not the case for the vast majority, and finding the wrong middle age date is much worse than being alone. Take your time and find that person that you enjoy. They are out there, and you will find them if you just put in some effort.
 
After years of being in a relationship, you need to also realize that the times changed in the dating world. There are now tons of options that were not out there when you were younger. Online dating services are a wonderful way to meet people of the same interests, and are rather easy to use. Just be sure that you do some online dating research and find a reputable online dating service to use.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Kim_Ladd